Do you notice that the rhythm of your day-to-day life is shifting to feel more conflict-oriented? Do you feel misunderstood or ignored? Are you feeling a loss of connection with your partner? Is one party or both withdrawing from the relationship? When the spark that was once so bright is now dulled by arguments and disconnect it is often difficult to pull out of it alone. There are times when couples hit a wall in their relationship and it becomes challenging to discuss difficult and painful issues. Couples therapy provides an opportunity to rebuild, rejuvenate, and rekindle that relationship. There is an emphasis on listening and communication skills, conflict resolution and sharing insecurities and vulnerabilities. The goal is to learn how to communicate more effectively. Both individuals will learn how to understand their partner’s feelings, needs and wants. New patterns of interaction are developed and amends are made.
The focus is in the process, not so much the content. Within the context there is a feedback loop which becomes the pattern of communication. This pattern or dance we do becomes toxic. We seek to acknowledge this dance and find ways to interact more productively. It is important to point out that one does not only need to seek couples/marriage therapy when there is distress. People in strong marriages are welcomed into therapy to enhance their relationship.
What can family therapy be helpful with?
Family therapy can be helpful in dealing with navigating life's transitions, anger, mental illness, chemical dependency, chronic illness, terminal illness, bereavement, abuse, behavioral problems, family conflict, divorce and family restructuring during divorce and remarriage.
COUPLES & MARITAL THERAPY
Signs that seeking therapy may be good for your relationship:
Even the happiest families hit speed bumps along the way. Sometimes tension can build in the home, or you feel less like a family unit. Family systems can promote confidence and reassurance, but they can also create a place where members feel powerless and uncertain. The family system changes and develops as new dynamics and expectations grow. As you age, as your children age, and as the world around you changes, it's important for the family system to adjust, and for communication patterns to shift. Family therapy is a time to bring everyone together to have a voice and discuss life transitions, create boundaries and limits, understand and negotiate spoken and unspoken house rules as well as define family members roles.